The part of Do Tell I find the most helpful is the way the questions are structured. Each question has more than one layer to it and they are meant to elicit answers from a deeper level. I use various questions from the game for different situations during couple’s therapy.
The part of Do Tell I find the most helpful is the way the questions are structured. Each question has more than one layer to it and they are meant to elicit answers from a deeper level. I use various questions from the game for different situations during couple’s therapy.
Even though couples come in with issues that they plan to work on, I observe various amounts of fear of exposure by each partner. There are also many situations in which one or both partner will shut down and find it difficult to bring an issue into the room. The questions are structured enough so as to add the needed safety with an actual process. This provides each with an opportunity to volunteer information that may have been stonewalled to this point. (Editor’s note: some therapists change the rules and turn difficult questions into “Mirror” play click here for more info on Mirror play)
Even if one partner chooses not to answer a question, this in itself is valuable material to work with. Before sessions I have the option to choose questions from a large selection that would fit the situation at hand, I have one partner shuffle the particular cards and they agree to take turns asking the other.
Another benefit is that it opens up and creates the needed atmosphere to start a dialogue that in many cases is desperately needed for connection. The questions and what happens afterwards helps clients engage and participate in their therapy. I feel Do Tell is an important tool for any therapist, especially those working with couples. submitted by Dan Connor – Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
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Geoff LaPlace
Geoff LaPlace has been expanding the visibility of easy ways regular people can accomplish Relationship Building and connection among people in Families, Couples, Children and Self-Improvement groups. This endeavor has helped him form partnerships to get the word out thru web article publishing, speaking, talk radio, and YouTube. For more information please contact him at geofflaplace@dotellthegame.com
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