The more connected we are to ourselves, the happier we can be.

One way to get connected to yourself is to become mindful about every moment.

Whether you know it or not, most of us operate a good part the time in a state of mindlessness. Everyone does it. We’re not thinking. We’re just doing.

Here’s a simple example: Think about getting dressed in the morning. You don’t ask yourself how to fasten the buttons on your shirt. You just do it. It’s a mindless act, and a few minutes later you probably don’t even really remember doing it. But your shirt is buttoned. Right? That’s mindlessness.

If you want to learn more about the science of it, here’s a great article.

Think about the endless number of interactions and actions we go through every day. How many of those are intentional? Do you sometimes think you don’t even really know what you do all day long?

Mindlessness is not always bad. It helps you get through the tasks of living, but it can also get you stuck in a rut. That makes too much mindlessness something that can steal your joy. So, learn to be mindful.

Mindfulness can start with stopping. Yes. STOPPING.

Stop what you are doing. Take a few breaths, and put a momentary silence to the constant stream of thought running through your brain. Once we slow down enough to see how we feel, we can make a decision to set our daily compass in the direction of whatever it is that we want. This physical and mental action can bring a mindful start to the day, and can help keep you aware of every moment.

Imagine what it would be like if you woke up in the morning and said, “I feel really good, and I want to feel really good today.” Chances are, at the end of the day, you would find you did feel better all day, because you were conscious of making it happen.

The only way to become more mindful is to practice. A great way to do that, if you don’t already own Do Tell: The Relationship Game, which features hundreds of questions to get you thinking about your life and the way you share it with others, is to join the Do Tell: The Game Facebook Fan Page.

We post the questions from four cards each day. They’re a great way to get you thinking, and to get you talking. There’s also a contest going on right now. If you answer a question on the Wall, we’ll enter you for a chance to win a copy of Do Tell: The Relationship Game. It’s only going on for the next week. So, we hope to see you there soon.