Focus on the Why

This month on our Do Tell blog we’ve been focused on:

What we think about is what we get

So, here’s one last thought on capturing your thinking. When trying to “get” good things you’re your life, focus on the “Why” instead of the “When” or “How.”

Oftentimes when people think about what they really want, their minds immediately drift towards focusing on all the reasons they won’t be able to get them.

“I want a new car – it’s too expensive.”

“I want a new job – the economy is bad.”

“I want better health – the doctors say I won’t get better.”

These thoughts can quickly become self-defeating. Don’t even think about how you are going to get there just think about why you want it. Your energy bogs down when you think about how. Here are some examples of how those thought processes might work instead:

“I want a new car because my current car is 15 years old and has 260,000 miles on it. You know, I bet there’s a new car out there for me that would be safer and more reliable. I can just imagine how great it feels to be driving my new car. As a matter of fact, I know just how I’ll feel driving this car and that’s so exciting! ”

“I want a new job because I no longer feel challenged at my old job. I would be happier and a better worker if I found a new place to use my skills. I can picture myself in a place where the people and I inspire each other and the pay is more than I could have imagined.”

“I want better health so that I can play with my children or grandchildren. I’ll get to see them grow up and they’ll remember the fun times we are able to have together. And I’ll have so much fun in the process.”

This week Christians celebrate Easter and Jewish people celebrate Passover. For both, it’s a time of focusing on the hope of their faith.

When you think about the “why” in your life you can recapture that hope. Your hope, may be a hope based in your faith. It may be the hope you have in your relationships, or a new lease you’ve been given on life.

The “things” we “get” by changing our thinking can be so much more important than a new car, a new job, or even better health. They can be the thoughts that affect your whole being, and change your perspective.

Line yourself up with what you really want in your life and soon you will find that the energy within you changes and you are able to capture what you really want. If you have a Do Tell: The Relationship Game, try pulling a few cards and using them to get your thoughts going about what you really want in life.

If you do celebrate Easter or Passover and are getting together with your family for the holiday, take a stack of cards along to use as a conversation starter at Sunday dinner. Make your family gathering more meaningful, and you might see the hope of this season in a new light.