If you’re looking for the perfect Valentine you usually have to take a little Risk. This week consider two kinds of Risk at Valentine’s Day. The first is big.

#1: Move out of your thinking and into your heart.

Everyone who has celebrated love at Valentine’s Day has had to do this at some point. But for some reason, we keep fighting against it.

Nearly four centuries ago Rene Descartes said, “I think, therefore I am.” While this was breakthrough thinking at the time, since then, we have come to live in a world that tells us to value our brains more than our hearts. Thinking over Feeling. Descartes assessment may have been correct, (who can argue with 400 years of philosophy?) but it does not seem complete.

Though emotions cannot be tested by scientific modes, or proven valid through philosophical arguments, emotions are a part of our fiber. As much as we are thinking beings, we cannot be separated from the fact that we are feeling beings as well.

The trick is that we are often very clever at thinking our way out of our feelings.

Who hasn’t had that “gut feeling” before? And ignored it, and then been sorry that they didn’t pay attention? Living too much in your brain and too little in your heart hurts you in the long run.

Feelings are our emotional guidance system. When we pay attention to how we feel and act accordingly, our life feels easier, smoother. When we ignore how we feel, we often get cranky or out of sorts. And who wants to be cranky and out-of-storts on Valentine’s Day?

That brings us to the second Risk for the perfect Valentine.

#2: Do something different.

Everyone can give flowers or chocolate. Why not consider buying your sweetheart a gift that says, “Hey, I want to know you better.” It doesn’t matter if you just met or you have been married for 20 years, every couple can grow deeper in their love by finding new ways to connect.

Do Tell: The Relationship Game might just be the perfect Valentine’s Day gift.

Before you brush off the idea fearing of losing major points when you don’t produce the standard fare, think about it for a second. There is no better way to say “I love you” than to tell someone you want to understand them better. You like them so much, you want more. That’s what Do Tell is all about. It helps you get to know people better. And “Risk” is part of the game. For Example:

Risk Card: What do you do when you feel hurt? Give an example.

Risk Card: Do you think there’s something or someone watching over you helping you along the way?

Risk Card: Tell us where your most ticklish spot is. Bonus: Get someone to tickle it and both move ahead 1 space

Think about it. Do Tell: The Relationship game is a great way to pay attention to your loved ones, to stop and hear what they’re thinking and better understand how they feel about…life. The family version can also be a great Valentine to share with your kids. You will spend time together and let them know that you find them interesting and worth your time. Maybe you’ll create a few laughs along the way.

There’s still plenty of time to order the game from Amazon.com and get it delievered to your home.

What a great way to say “I love you” this Valentine’s Day.